Lasting LEGACY HOW GEORGE'S STORY CHANGE THE WORLD

 

CREATING A LEGARY FOR YOU BABY ANGELS

For any parent, losing a child is the worst nightmare. Friends, colleges, and family find the social taboos surrounding child loss uncomfortable and unfathomable; they usually respond with an unconformable "I'm so sorry" or "I can't even imagine what you're going through." They really can't as that's not how our brains are wired. People flee from pain and run towards pleasure, according to Sigmund Freud. Parents, no matter how far we run, the hurt will always be there.For any parent, losing a child is the worst nightmare. Friends, colleges, and family find the social taboos surrounding child loss uncomfortable and unfathomable; they usually respond with a chilly "I'm so sorry" or "I can't even imagine what you're going through." They really can't as that's not how our brains are wired. People flee from pain and run towards pleasure, according to Sigmund Freud. Parents, no matter how far we run, the hurt will always be there.

 

THE AFTERMATH
After the funeral is over and the sympathy cards slowly stop being given, parents are faced with something almost as terrible as losing their child, the realisation that life is moving on and the fear that people have forgotten their child has existed. You wake up daily wishing it was all a bad dream but instead you watch the world turn.
Your friends get on with their lives, the promises that was made of them being there when you need them, is just a distant memory, while the pain is for you is never far from your mind.

THE NEED TO BE….
I knew I needed to do something and I know I needed to do it now, so one of the things I did was to create the “Doing It for GEORGE” website; this gave me an outlet for my feeling as well helping others who have found themselves lost in this forest of child loss. We didn’t have all the answer and I didn’t know where to start but slowly I wrote things down hopping in some small way that my words may help someone else. From the start our aim was to never preach and tell you what you should do and how to feel but instead to help you find your own way in building your new norm.

ALONG THE WAY
While on my own personal journey; I always including my son, if I am asked “how many children do I have”? George has always been in my troughs. I also have done things in his name, from creating a bucket list for him and sharing his story in parliament. Having this website I have been able to write down and share with others.

WHAT NOW?
One of the goals on our site is to allow parents grieving the loss of a child, a place to share feeling, if you wish for others to read your story iWall
It’s OK to feel the desire to establish a legacy for the child who have grow wings and left our loving side, parents who are mourning the loss find it difficult thinking that their baby been forgotten , to leave a legacy for the deceased child. Making a plan to assist others in your child's honour, whether it is for educational purposes, community service, or a long-term mission, can be extremely important to the healing process.

THEY ARE NOT FORGOTEN
I want you to know above all else that your kid is not forgotten. Many people still have affection for your child even though it feels like the world is going on without you. The grieving and healing processes can be greatly aided by regularly allowing yourself to connect with their memory. Though it hurts sometimes, suffering is a necessary component of the life we currently lead and a step towards serenity. Recall that you are not required to bear it alone.