Finding the right words

There is never the right thing to say to someone who has lost a loved one, never mind someone who has lost a child, it amasise me of some of the things friends, family or colleagues say when you let them know about your loss. These are some of the things which I find "He's in a better place", "There is a reason for everything", "You still have other children", "You can have another child", "Be strong" and of cause the all time "I know how you feel".